Dealing with unforeseen waves of grief in the midst of celebration can be tricky. Here is an example of how I'm learning to process and validate my heart with Jesus.
Category: Miscarriage
Hope Deferred
Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a dream fulfilled is a tree of life. Proverbs 13.12 Hope deferred. This is the state Brett and I have found ourselves in quite often the past year. Many days, we could come up for a breathe and felt we weren’t trapped by its grip. Others, we could … Continue reading Hope Deferred
Tuesday, April 12th, 2016
Today I awoke heartbroken for the loss of our daughter, Evelyn, that I should be meeting today. But I won't let her story end there. In honor of Evelyn's life, I am finally launching my own website/blog: shaileyratliff.com. Thank you everyone for your support and encouragement.
Vulnerability
I was surprised last month when I looked up the definition of “vulnerable”. But as I contemplated on it more, it think it is truly fitting. Brett and I have chosen to share our journey the past 15 months publicly. As we have done this, we have left ourselves open to being hurt, misunderstood, judged, … Continue reading Vulnerability
Baby Ratty #6
That’s right. Baby Ratty #6 is on its way, due to arrive the beginning of October 2016. I would love to write that “we are elated, filled with joy, and so excited to make this announcement.” But, that would not be the whole truth. Even though it may not be glamorous, I’d rather share the … Continue reading Baby Ratty #6
Don’t pity me.
It’s a strange experience to have two children graduate to Heaven in just six months time. When we lost Timothy Luke, people were brokenhearted with us, gathered around us and many tried to offer encouraging words. When we announced we were pregnant again, many people said, “we’re really praying with you this time”. Again, they … Continue reading Don’t pity me.
Anger is not my friend- nor is it the enemy.
I am no stranger to grief or miscarriage. Unfortunately, Brett and I have experienced the loss of three of our children. Each one was unique, shocking, painful, heart wrenching, and seemingly unbearable. When our first baby went to Heaven in 2007, I wasn’t yet a Christian and didn’t understand life the way the Bible explains … Continue reading Anger is not my friend- nor is it the enemy.
Monday, October 5th, 2015
Today is the day we would have delivered Timothy Luke via a scheduled c-section. My heart feels sad that I won’t get to hold him, meet him, nurse him, and celebrate him as we introduce him to the world. I wonder what he’d look like as a newborn and I keep imagining he’d have weighed … Continue reading Monday, October 5th, 2015
Grieving Blue 💙
I have had more compliments on my nails the past summer than ever before! “Oh, I love your nail color, is so bright and cheerful!” Or even a lot of people noticing that I haven’t changed the color in 4 ½ months “Wow, you really love blue, don’t you?” Funny thing is, I have never … Continue reading Grieving Blue 💙
Fear vs Love
Recently, I heard someone say that “fear would be a normal reaction” to a situation we were facing. It got me thinking. I believe the better way to state that is that fear would like to be our normal reaction. The truth is that neither you or I were given a spirit of fear. We … Continue reading Fear vs Love
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